Left-behind girl looking for a job father's coaching job unsuccessful

On May 8th, 11-year-old girl Tingting (a pseudonym) in Longshui Town, Dazu District learned of the difficulties. She did not seek help from her classmates, nor did she find a teacher. Instead, she went to the main city alone to look for a father’s counseling work. However, she did not know what her father’s phone calls were, nor did she know her father’s work address. She could only live in the streets. Fortunately, the civilian police on the platform of the Western Patrol Platform in Shapingba District discovered her and sent her home in time. It is understood that because her mother left home, her father works outside the family all the year round. Ting Ting and her grandfather lived together for 6 years. This time she was the 4th time she came out looking for her father in 6 years.

Little girl street wandering for 2 hours

At 16 o'clock on May 8th, in the Shapingba District west Yongjiao patrol platform, two employees from a store “brucked” a little girl and hoped that the patrolmen would help her find her father. It turned out that the little girl was named Tingting and was 11 years old. She was in Longshui Town, Dazu District. She was in elementary school in the fifth grade. She alone came to the main city to find her dad. “I wouldn’t do my homework and I would like my dad to help me.” Tingting said.

“At the time, her body was dirty and she always lowered her head and tears in her eyes.” Yesterday, Liu Lian, deputy chief of the Western Patrol Platform, recalled that after more than 20 minutes of soothing, Ting Ting only spoke and said that day. Early in the morning, she drove alone to the main city to find a working father. After getting off the train, Ting Ting only remembered that she had no father's contact number and address, and it was raining. She was so anxious that she didn't know what to do. She had to wander in the streets.

After visiting more than two hours, Tingting walked into a shop and wanted to buy an umbrella. When she took out more than 200 yuan from her pocket, the clerk asked her how she had spent so much money. She said that the money was given by her father. She went to the main city to find her father’s counseling work.

It was found that Tingting did not have a father's phone, and she did not have an address for her father. The two employees in the shop took her to the patrol platform to ask for help.

Looking for father's counseling job alone

“Nearly, I was very struggling to learn. Many questions would not be done. I was very anxious and wanted to find my dad to help me with my homework.” Tingting finally said the real reason for her leaving home. Yesterday, teacher Ting Ting’s class teacher Xiao confirmed that Tingting’s academic performance was poor, and her character was rather reluctant and stubborn. She usually did not like to talk. Most of her classmates were reluctant to play with her, and her family rarely contacted the teacher.

On the morning of May 8, Ting Ting went to school as usual, but took all the pocket money. “When Dad walked, he said that he was working in Chongqing (main city) and I wanted to go to Chongqing to find him.” Tingting said that taking into account her distance from home, she hid the bag in the small wood next to Shili Village.

It turned out that Tingting's mother left home 6 years ago. Her father worked outside the construction site all year round. She returned home every year before the Chinese New Year. Tingting had to live with her uncle, grandma and grandpa. However, his uncle had two children and he had no time to look after her. At present, Ting Ting and 70-year-old grandfather live together. She goes home from school every day to wash clothes and cook.

Run away from home 4 times within 6 years

Since Tingting did not have the address and phone number for her father’s work, the patrol officer could not help her find her father. Thus, the contact between the patrol officer and Ting Ting was informed that Tingting’s father is now working in Henan, and the telephone number has been changed.

Afterwards, the patrolman decided to send Ting Ting back to Dazu's home. She did not expect this to be rejected by Ting Ting and said Grandpa would beat her. Under the repeated persuasion of the patrolling police and the assurance that the family would not "learn" her, Tingting agreed to be sent home by the patrolmen.

At noon on May 9, the patrol sent Ting Ting home. She said, knowing that Tingting was gone, she could not find it everywhere. The family was in a hurry. Now that she has seen Ting Ting’s return home, she is finally at ease. “In 6 years, Ting Ting left her home four times. Every time she was sent back by the police,” Tingting’s nephew revealed that Tingting seldom spoke to her family about her own thoughts of running away from home. “We will be more If you care about Tingting, you can't let her do it again. If necessary, let her father go home."

Expert statement

Ting Ting's appearance on the face of looking for dad is essentially evading learning

“Looking for dad's counseling work is essentially evading school and evading learning,” says Tan Gangqiang, a professor and psychology expert at the Chongqing University of Arts and Sciences who believes that if Tingting encounters unsatisfactory or unfavorable circumstances due to intergenerational parenting and lack of affection. Most will take evasive measures to protect themselves.

"Because of poor grades, she felt she had no face in her classmates." According to Tan Gangqiang, Tingting's deep-rooted parents are vague and unfamiliar with their parents, who are vulnerable to resentment. When others mention their parents, her father works outside and she feels helpless. In addition, due to the lack of counseling methods and communication, Ting Ting has developed a low self-esteem and loneliness. She has a self-protected mentality and refuses to associate with people.

In this regard, Tan Gangqiang suggested that even when working in the field, parents should communicate more with their children, go home as much as possible, use telephones and online videos to communicate with children when conditions permit, and take the initiative to help children recover. The affection gives them a psychological support. In addition, teachers can also help students by retaining and retrieving them, instead of blindly hurting “bad students”.

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